I love having this blog. I really do. But just like any other industry: there’s a good, bad, and ugly side of it. Before we start this “how to be a better blogger” nonsense, you’re going to need a bit of a backstory…
I started blogging almost five years ago from my college dorm room. Since then, I’ve grown Pink Champagne Problems into a business. I think it’s safe to say that I’ve seen a lot of sides of the blog/influencer industry. So I’m going to preface this post by saying: It’s not going to be warm and fuzzy. After a recent experience I had with another blogger, I felt the need to speak out about it and address it and share blogging tips – because I know I’m not the only one who faces drama in this industry.
Without giving too much information, I recently experienced the “blogging drama” that I’ve never experienced before…I’ve only heard stories. Long story short: I received a “mean” comment on my blog and after some dissecting, ridiculous stories, fake identities, and calling someone out on their (pardon my French) shit…I found out it was another blogger (one that used to be a friend) who left it. There was a lot more that went into this story, but out of respect for the blogger, I’ll leave it at that.
Blogger Tips: JUST STOP WITH THE DRAMA!
I’ve heard a lot of down-right crazy situations, and after my own experience, I just need to pose the question: Why can’t we play nice?!
There are girls and guys out there working their BUTTS off to create brands. And I don’t know why people have the audacity to attack someone’s brand. Especially when they have a so-called brand of their own. Is it out of jealousy? Most likely. But no one will ever admit that.
Regardless, it really needs to stop.
The blogging industry is so new and we get criticized a lot for being part of it. People think bloggers can’t get “real jobs”, so they just start a blog. People think bloggers just put on clothes and take photos…and don’t play other roles (accountant, editor, negotiator, SEO strategist, lawyer, etc.). And now we’re getting it from OUR OWN kind? Seriously? Instead of tearing each other down…why not build each other up? We need that, don’t ya think?
If you’ve experienced the drama…
First, I want to say I’m sorry it happened to you. I’ve talked to a few people before writing this post and they’ve had drama with not only other bloggers, but also with photographers, brands, and readers. Most of us are truly just trying to make an impact on the industry and those who come to read our content every day. So, if you’ve had something happen to you that wasn’t cool, I invite you to put your blinders on and JUST IGNORE IT.
To be honest, this was the hardest part for me. Knowing what I knew, and knowing someone intentionally tried to make me and my brand look bad – I had to really bite my tongue. Real hard. In the end, I said my peace and handled the situation as best I could. I didn’t prolong the drama (although the New Yorker in me really wanted to go all out, sorry not sorry).
At the end of the day, I’m going to continue to build my brand. I’m going to continue to work my ass off doing two things I really love, and I’m going to look past the nonsense. And if people see that as a threat to them, then so be it.
Blogging Tips: What to Do Post-Drama:
TALK TO THE PEOPLE WHO CARE | This was the most important part of dealing with the craziness. I really needed people to talk me off a ledge or else I would have went all out mean girl. The best part of this one (bad) person’s actions? I found out who I could truly count on in this community. I’m so thankful for my blogger besties: LINDA, Allie, Kristyn, and Jenn – I couldn’t have asked for better ladies who understood my frustrations and helped me get through it. (And to all of those who reached out on Twitter, I SO appreciate all of you. Your positive words were so encouraging.)
KEEP ON KEEPIN’ ON | As I mentioned before, someone who’s been sneaky, mean, etc. is probably just jealous of what you’re doing. My biggest piece of advice (to you and to myself) is to KEEP DOING WHAT YOU’RE DOING. You are obviously doing something awesome to have “haters” (Lol, I just really wanted to say haters during this post.)
LEARN FROM IT | If there was a heated exchange during the drama, just take a step back and reflect. Did you say some things you probably wouldn’t have said if you weren’t angry? Did you take the high road and handle the situation like an adult? Learning from a shitty situation can do nothing but help you in a future…and make you grow as a person.
HOW TO BE A BETTER BLOGGER | Much like learning from the situation, you can 100% come out of the drama on top. It’s easy to see how to be a better blogger when you’re dealing with some mean people. Just do the complete opposite of what they did. DUH;)
Still with me? That was a lot, I know. I really hope this post brings to light some of the drama that comes with the territory of putting yourself out there on the Internet. And I REALLY hope these blogging tips helped you if YOU’VE experienced a not-so-great experience. I’d love to hear your feedback below!
PS: I’d be SO grateful if you took my MID-YEAR READER SURVEY! Now that 2017 is halfway over (um, what?), I want to hit the refresh button and make sure I’m writing the content YOU want to see!