This post is not easy for me to write. At all.
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Some of you may know, last week my boyfriend and I (along with all of his friends) suffered a major loss. The last week was one of the most emotionally draining and saddest weeks of my life. And to be honest, I’m not feeling 100% right now. Which I know is okay. But I also know that now we need to start moving on day by day, hour by hour, little by little. And that’s where this blog comes into play. To be honest, I’m not feeling super motivated. There’s really a very small part of me that wants to create happy content. As hard as it is, I know I need to distract myself and dive back into work.
Although life seems so unfair sometimes, there’s always something to be thankful for. Optimism is contagious. It’s as simple as a smile. So since life is never guaranteed to stop with throwing curveballs, what you can do is switch your attitude to stop them from taking over your life and look for the silver linings.
Here are some of the small silver linings I’ve seen the past week:
Tragedy brings people together.
Last week was truly a testament to the type of person Matt’s best friend was. And all of Matt’s friends were finally together (of course, in very unfortunate circumstances). It warmed my heart to see all of these people together and just supporting each other in this horrible time. The amount of love between this group of friends is amazing, and bonded them in a way they didn’t know was possible. Some of these people we haven’t seen in forever, and many of them I don’t know too well. But after last week, I felt so much more connected to my boyfriend’s friends and know how much they love us.
Big belly laughs come at the most unexpected times.
Through the tears, there were a lot of laughs. I loved hearing stories from their college days or even before then. I loved going through ridiculous photos with some of his closest friends and seeing them genuinely laugh. It was certainly refreshing and exactly what everyone needed.
A large iced coffee is always there for you.
Do I need to say more? There is nothing better than a gigantic iced coffee (sweetened with a lot of cream) to help wake you up when you need a pick me up.
Seeing your family is everything.
After a tough few days, we stopped by my cousins’ house to see three of my baby cousins. When I first saw them, I couldn’t stop hugging them. I loved watching them play and laugh and just getting my mind off of reality for a while. I truly cherish every moment I have with my family, and seeing them randomly made me feel better.
So while the pain of losing a friend is still raw as hell, I’m vowing to begin taking a step — even if it’s a baby step — forward every day to get through this and look for my silver linings. And to anyone who reached out on Instagram, Twitter or Facebook, I can’t tell you how much your words mean to me. Thank you.
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I agree with you on all of those points… Life is so precious and people who are part of our daily life are angels that help us get though each day and experience every moment to the max.
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Hi Natali – thank you so much for your sweet words, they mean so much! xx
So much love to you! I was traveling when this happened so I didn’t really realize what was going on, but please feel free to yell, scream, cuss anything at me in an email to help you!
The Adored Life
Thank you so much my sweet friend! Your words mean so so so much to me! xx
Thinking of you Dana, a loss of a friend is never easy – but it will get better hour by hour ❤️ Reach out if there is anything you need.
xx Caroline
Thank you my girl! Appreciate it. xx
Such a sweet post Dana. You are right, optimism is contagious and we all need it at times and should spread it around to others when we are feeling that way. I am so sorry to you all for your loss. You are in my heart gal.
xo Laura Leigh
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Thank you so much my friend, your thoughts and kind words mean so much to me! xx
this is such a perfect post dana! words cannot describe how sorry i am for you all but i will be home in a jiffy so we can go get chipotle together. optimism is truly contagious and i’m so happy you’re looking at it that way! it will always get better with each day…and remember, i’m always here for you even when i’m across the globe ☺️ see you soon!!
xo
allie
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Can’t wait for a Chipotle date! xx
Love you sweet friend!! Such a sweet post. I’m so sorry for your loss and what you’re going through. From someone who has gone through this before, friends and family (and yes, coffee) definitely are what get you through. Just focus on the positive and fun memories you have, and take each day at a time. I’m here for you!! LOVE you!!! Xo
Love you so much my friend! You are the best for checking in with me too. xx
So sorry to hear about you all’s loss, but I’m totally thinking of and praying for you guys. I couldn’t agree more with this post, and think that the best aspects are when people come together and you realize how important family is! Hope you guys are doing okay during this time tough (and the lots of cream in coffee is crucial 😉 ).
Lauren
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Thank you, Lauren! Your sweet words mean so much! xx
We’re always here for you, Dana. Your three little guys loved seeing you too! xo
Love you so much! Thanks for hanging with us on Sunday! xx
I’m am so very sorry that you’re going thought this rough time. I know exactly how you feel, as my family suffered an unexpected loss recently as well. Everything you said in this post is 1000% true and helpful. It may not seem like it now but eventually you will get back “up” for lack of a better term especially with Family and all the other support you have.
Thank you so much, Nicole and I am so sorry for your loss as well! xx
Sending you and Matt endless amounts of love and positive energy!!!
I (along with many Loyola friends) were so heartbroken to hear about Mike. Sending you and Matt lots of love <3 But definitely agree with this post and hope diving back in will help you!