Why You Should Treat Yourself (And Not Feel Guilty About It)

If there’s anyone who’s going to advocate for treating yourself…it’s me. I’m very much in favor of self-love, and if that means treating yourself every once in a while, then so be it. 

I thought to do this post when I impulsively splurged on a pair of Gucci Princetown loafers (I 100% blamed my boyfriend on this…he got me my first pair, and now I’m hooked). I was feeling down and just really sad about the world. I couldn’t get out of the funk I was in. One night I was on Instagram and saw Megan wearing these loafers. I’ve honestly been wanting a pair of these loafers since I was in college. I remember the first time I saw them…and then saw the price tag. I also didn’t think they were practical at all.

But this funk was really getting to me, so I did what I do best. Spend money. I splurged on those loafers and it was instant gratification. Money does not necessarily buy happiness, but in this case, it certainly did. And I do not regret my purchase at all. I’ve had them for three weeks and the cost per wear decreases daily. I’m so happy with my new shoes! So this purchase really got me thinking: Treating yourself is definitely a good thing. And here’s why.

Treating yourself doesn’t need to be on a designer item.

I love designer things as much as the next girl, but unfortunately, consistent designer purchases are just not realistic for me. So yes, while I just splurged on an expensive pair of shoes, I don’t necessarily think treating yourself is limited to designer items. I try to treat myself as much as I can, especially if it’s a reward for a successful completion of a blog campaign. Some of my favorite ways to treat myself include: Getting a venti vanilla chai latte at Starbucks (cannot believe it’s almost $7), a weekly Drybar blowout, a mani/pedi, or a massage.

Why you shouldn’t feel guilty when you treat yourself.

This is YOUR money. Your hard earned money. You get to choose how you spend it. And I’m not saying that you should blow every single one of your paychecks (although we’ve all been there before). That’s definitely not responsible. But I am a firm believer that you should not feel guilty about treating yourself. In so many people’s minds, treating yourself is a self-indulgent, frivolous strategy. But that’s not how I see it. When we treat ourselves, we feel energized, happy, and a boost of control. A little self-love, whether it’s in the form of a gift or not, isn’t selfish. I think more people need to remember that.

Treat yourself to make yourself proud.

I like to think about it this way: If I know I want a certain item or want to live a certain way, I need to save my money. That means I also need to think about really hustling when it comes to the blog. Saving up for something I really want is almost like setting a goal. If I work really hard, I can buy that special something for myself. In a way, it measures my small successes. We need to stop being so hard on ourselves when it comes to treating ourselves. Be proud of those purchases you make for yourself — no matter how big or small.

When it comes to treating yourself, I really believe that these small wins are necessary for happiness. No, not because of the monetary factor, but also because of the value it can add to our lives. Whether it’s a fresh weekend manicure or that bag you’ve been eyeing, doing the things that make YOU happy are so important. What was your favorite treat yourself purchase or how do you like to reward yourself in little ways?


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  1. 10.18.17

    I needed this lady! Thank you!! I use to splurge here and there to treat myself and it always made me feel so good. Now, I’m always left feeling guilty. Even when I spend the tiniest bit. I need to get over that! As you said, it’s my money and I’ve worked hard for it!

    xo Laura Leigh

    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      YES GIRL, do it! You deserve to – you work so incredibly hard! xx

  2. 10.18.17

    Preach it! I just wanna scream “Treat Yo’ Self” after reading this ?? But this is so true. I try to reward myself after a super long workday with something simple like getting an ice cream cone from my fav place down the street or going out to a nice dinner!

    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      Hahah yes! Even the smallest ways of treating yourself makes you feel a lot better — especially after a long day!

  3. 10.18.17

    oh you know i always treat myself ? sometimes too often haha! love your gucci loafers and you will truly wear them to death! now i need to get myself a pair too…



  4. 10.18.17
    Jenn Lake said:

    So much yes to this! Don’t think I didn’t spot those amazing new loafers at Gracias Madre – lol!

    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      I don’t think they’ve come off my feet since! 😉

  5. 10.18.17

    Totally agree! I think treating yourself is so important! We all work hard and deserve to splurge every once and a while! Also… your hair like this is amazing! xo Bryn http://www.waketonroad.com

    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      Yes! I’m so glad you agree with me! xx
      And thank you!

  6. 10.18.17

    Love this post (and your dress, so freakin cute!), but the part about making yourself proud is so important. I had when I ‘treat’ myself on dumb things rather than waiting and really treating myself on something that will make me happy and I’ll cherish!

    xx Caroline

    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      Yes! I’m slowly, but surely learning that it’s so much better to be “wise” with my money even when I’m treating myself!

  7. 10.18.17
    Natali said:

    Amen lady, straight to the point and all so true!! Treating yourself is just another form of self-love and we need to “tap” ourselves on the shoulders every now and then and truly take a moment to acknowledge everything we’ve achieved so far. Also, you’re looking like a doll here, beautiful outfit!


    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      Agreed, a little pat on the shoulder is always necessary! Thank you for stopping by, Natali! xx

  8. 10.18.17
    Annie Robinson said:

    Your outfit is so pretty! This is a great blog post 🙂


    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      Thank you so much, Annie! xx

  9. 10.18.17
    Lauren Oliver said:

    Completely agree… although sometimes I definitely treat myself wayyyy too much, which is why I’m trying not to shop for a little! LOL but those Gucci loafers have been on my wish list too, and one day I will get them!!


    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      I mean, I AM RIGHT THERE WITH YA! But I do think it’s necessary! Can’t wait for you to get them — you would LOVEEEE them! xx

  10. 10.18.17

    You should never feel guilty about treating yourself once in a while! Small or large, giving yourself some recognition is a part of self love!

    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      Yes yes yes! Couldn’t agree more! xx

  11. 10.18.17

    You “why” reason is SO on point and I love your perspective! Making me feel much better about the Target order I just placed cause I have to buy new work pants since my others are too small now 🙁 haha

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    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      Thank you so much, Morgan! And I’ve been dying at some of the things on Target…SO GOOD! Totally feel ya on the small pants thing…I’m about at that point too 😉

  12. 10.18.17
    Maya said:

    I totally agree! I love to treat myself, but I definitely have to make myself reign it in sometimes.


    • 10.19.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      TOTALLY, ha! Sometimes I need to chill, BUT I do think treating yourself is necessary! xx

  13. 10.23.17
    Mary Fremeau said:

    I love this post!! It is so true. I am a teacher, and sometimes I feel like I purchase like I’m a CEO or surgeon, haha! But seriously, I work hard! We all deserve to treat ourselves! I am on board with your Gucci loafers, girl!

    • 10.23.17
      Dana Mannarino said:

      Hahahah I love the CEO/surgeon reference…I feel ya!!!
      I give MAJOR props to teachers! Where would we be without you guys?! So glad you know when to splurge on yourself after working so hard. Thanks for stopping by! xx