The Year of Zero Expectations


Is it just me, or are you also tip toeing around 2021?

I’ve been seeing that meme floating around about eaaaaaaasing into 2021 (like, don’t even look at it — they’re pretty funny actually). I think EVERY single person on the planet can agree that 2020 needed to be the f*ck over. It’s been a year filled with a lot of intense emotions, issues, and sacrifices.

One good thing to come out of 2020 was a lot of growth — personally and professionally. I’m really proud of what I “accomplished” in 2020, and I know that’s a blessing in itself. To sum up a short reflection of 2020, surviving was kind of the theme. Just going with the motions, not really knowing what the next day would bring, was how I approached life once the pandemic hit.

  • I learned to co-survive with someone I had only started dating last October. While our relationship was kind of forced to fast track a bit, it ended up fizzling out and that’s okay.
  • I came to appreciate my family 10000x more after not seeing them for months to keep ourselves safe.
  • I stepped up my game at my 9-to-5 job even though I was so new to the company before we started working from home. It was tough to not be able to learn in person, and get to know the teams face-to-face. It’s honestly been pretty tough as I LOVE going to my office, but I’m definitely proud of the growth I’ve done since I started my job in February.

As we head into 2021, there’s nothing I want more than to just live with zero expectations. We don’t know when life is going back to “normal”. We don’t know when New York City will come back to life. There’s just a lot of uncertainty. So instead of stressing myself out about those things…I’m going to just take things day by day, kind of like I did from March-December.

While I’m certainly more optimistic about 2021, I’m trying not to get ahead of things. Life just isn’t going to go back to normal any time soon. And I think I’m ok with that. I still get to be with my family and friends, work for a company I adore, and have more time for my own business too. I honestly have zero expectations for this year. Of course I still want to grow and get things accomplished, but I’m not putting pressure on myself or on the world around us. Things will eventually get better, and I’m ok with not having an exact timeline. It’s actually nice to not put any pressure on myself or my business!

We’ll start with this blog post for example. In previous years, I usually take the time over the holidays to really focus on my blog and platforms because work is usually so slow. This year, I didn’t really do that. Up until Sunday night, I still didn’t have ANY motivation to hit “publish” on this. So in keeping up with the zero expectations theme, I figured IT WAS OK TO POST THIS TODAY INSTEAD OF YESTERDAY. Letting go of expectations allows you to put a lot of things into perspective!

So while I don’t have any revelations about the upcoming year, or any large and grand goals…I will say that I’m looking forward to seeing how this attitude brings me through 2021! SO LET’S JUST TAKE 2021 DAY BY DAY, OK?

photos by allie provost


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